A family member of mine (not direct), has been recently diagnosed with cancer.
These news are never good. There’s never a good way to deliver them.
WHY?!
I was so happy with the holiday spirit and all. Now it all kind of deflated. Every time I think of something happy, I remember ‘oh, wait, no, someone has cancer’.
It makes me feel like… Like who knows?! Maybe I have cancer. Maybe everyone does, but we’re not diagnosed. It’s scaring me.
I’ve been searching about causes and symptoms for cancer, and I just… Ugh. I’m trying to convince myself that no, I don’t have any of these things, I’m fine. But am I?
I just loved that person! They don’t deserve this at all!
The doctor said that it’s completely curable, but will take time and pain. I don’t know how true this is and if the doctor is saying that because she’s also part of the family and doesn’t want to worry us, but I’m hanging on to that.
Still, it’s not all well. In order to get treatment, this person has to go through something awful. Downright horrible. I can’t even think about it.
Why is there still no simple cure? Why is fever or a cough more treatable than that stupid disease?
Okay, I know I sound like a two year old complaining, but I just can’t think straight.
I just hope, hope, HOPE everything will be fine. It won’t, there’s still going to be bad news everywhere in life, but I still hope. God, please.
Update: First of all, you guys are the best people. Your comments all cheered me up a huge deal. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.
Second, it really intrigues me that every single one of you know at least one person with cancer. Most of them have survived, which is honestly reassuring. May the souls of all the fallen warriors rest in peace.
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So sorry to hear that but I know how you feel because the same thing happened to me two years ago when my aunt was diagnosed with breast cancer. It was one of those “bad things happen to good people” situations and it just made me question why her out of all people in the world. IT’s rough but at least you’re talking about it. I held everything in and it tore me apart. One the bright side (although it may not seem that way now) the doctor said it’s curable (even if she is family, I don’t think she would say it if it were untrue) Not everyone gets to hear that. It’s hard seeing how the treatment affects them but at least they have to chance to get better 🙂
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Thank you so much for your comments, I knew it would be a good decision to post about it here because it IS liberating.
I’m really sorry about your aunt too. Cancer is awful because you just can’t blame anyone. You can’t be angry at anyone. It’s just something that is.
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You’re very welcome! I’m pretty sure that I was angry at the universe when we found out lol I hope that your family member’s treatment goes well 🙂
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I hope so too! Thank you, really
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Anytime!
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I’m so sorry, I wish the best for that person and your family. Remember that it is not your fault- it is okay to be happy, I’m sure that person would rather you enjoy life than mope around, right? And as the previous person said, at least the doctor said it was completely curable. I don’t think she would lie to you.
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The thing is… Well, I don’t know if I should say this here, I’m scared someone will read this and find out who I’m talking about because apparently they’re not telling everyone. But there is still huge loss, even if the person survives.
Either way, thank you so much for your kind words. I know I didn’t cause the disease, but I just feel wrong being happy when something so terrible is going on.
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Lots and lots and lots of hugs.
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Thank you ❤
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I’m sorry to hear that I recently found out my nana had breast cancer. She kept it from me because she wanted me to stay focus on school, but that hurt my feelings a bit. I understand why she did that, but if she would have passed away or something would happen I don’t know what I would have done. I wish nothing but the best for you and your family!
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I do understand your nana. She just wanted the best for you, and I think she made the right decision. She’s really selfless, and what she did must have been really hard for her, because if I had a disease I’d blab it out to anyone who’d hear. We want attention, what can we say?
Thank you for taking the time to read, and for your kind words 🙂
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If it makes you feel better, two of my family members survived cancer (a direct family member and an indirect one)
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It does! Gives me hope ^^ thank you!
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I am so sorry to hear this and send all my love to the person and their family. Try to stay positive, because that might make the person feel positive in themselves. You don’t have to feel happy during Christmas, and if I was in your situation I would feel bad too, but from my perspective you still have the right to be happy and not in anyway is this your fault. You
are a strong person and I am sure you will be able to get through this. Don’t worry about getting cancer yourself, your chances haven’t changed since your family member has been diagnosed. Remember, it is curable, they wouldn’t lie. Lots of cancers can be treated fairly
easily, for example, I didn’t even know my Grandad has a tumor (he is fine now). Stay strong and I once again I give all the love in the world to you and your family. Sorry I wasn’t much help, I just sort of rambled on.
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Seriously, you were. I feel much better reading you guys’ comments, you really are the nicest people. I’m starting to feel slivers of hope. Thank you so much.
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I’m glad I made you feel even 1% better 🙂
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You did, and I appreciate it a great deal 🙂
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By the way in feeling bad I didn’t mean feeling guilty I meant feeling sad for your family member
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I don’t think it’s possible to feel guilty in this situation, luckily that’s one thing I can put aside
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I’m glad, I hope you are well
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So not going to help, but my grandmother died of cancer, but hers wasn’t curable. I’m sure if the doctor says it’s curable then it is (agreeing with all of the other comments in that). You just need to be there for support and let them know that you’re there, I kind of wish I spent more time with my grandma. Agh, sorry, totally not helping
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I hope it is. And I’m sorry for your grandma, may she rest im peace ~
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I am so very sorry to hear that. I know how you feel as I have had many people in my life who have been diagnosed and/or have died of it, direct and not direct. I wish the best for you an your family and happy holidays!
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Thank you so much, and back to you!
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It happens for a different reasons. (it is connected to the lifestyle, in general) – sorry, I had to mention that, I took bio recently.
I do feel you; it’s hard to find out someone close to you has cancer. It affects everybody, not just the person who’s sick. My boyfriend had lung cancer, and I know what he went through – at least he’s fine now. My friend’s father has lung cancer as well, due to pneumonia.
If the doc. says it’s treatable, then it is. All you can do is offer your support, and be there for your family.
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I’m really glad about your boyfriend and father 🙂 and thanks for taking the time to comment, I really appreciate it
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I am so, so sorry. I can hardly imagine how you feel but I’m sending hope and support everyone who’s affected. Luckily it’s curable, so I hope the person has a full recovery. If you need to spend time with your family then make that a priority. x
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That’s really sweet, thank you for your kind words and advice. I certainly should
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Uhhh yeah this kinda hit home because I’ve been showing alot of symptoms of the same cancer my dad had that’s pretty rare and hard to survive from. Plus I have an enlarged lymph node which is like a blaring light for what my dad had and blood tests might not be accurate because even when he had stage 4 it wasn’t in his blood. But I haven’t gotten my blood test results back yet… so I guess we’ll see.
But I wish you the best of luck and many prayers.
I know it may feel hopeless, but you’re support really does mean alot to that other person, trust me.
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Oh my… This is terrifying. I can’t imagine how anxious you must feel. I really hope these are just herditary things that have nothing to do with cancer… Or if anything, that it’s caught at an early stage. I hope you’ll be okay too
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Yeah its pretty effing scary, but the rest of my heart stuff is too, so I’m sadly kind of used to the life or death situation.
But thank you, it means a lot 🙂
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i know this feel. Someone very close to me has cancer and i’ve gone through her treatment and healing. She’s fine now, but she still gets depressed. this particular disease has just so much weight. and it gets hard to even get through the treatment. the worst part is, you can never really rest assure. it can re-occur. and people who have cancer are more prone to get them. how sad is that ? as if one cancer isn’t enough.
whoever has cancer, give him/her a lot of support. that’s what they really need. the mental pressure of it is overwhelming.
a therapist can help a lot too really.
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That is really unbelievable! This disease is crazy – everyone here knows at least one person who has gone through it. They should cure it already! Ugh I’m CONVINCED that there’s a cure.
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there should be. i mean diabetes was a scary old disease once, now its something almost all the old people have.
i just hope the cure is found soon
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I’m ever so sorry to hear the news of one of your family member’s being diagnosed. Please send my well wishes to them for a speedy recovery. I absolutely believe hand on heart that they will beat the disease, and I will always see them as a fighter in my eyes.
Stay strong my dear good friend, and I hope the family member of yours that is affected gets better soon. Cancer’s ass needs to be kicked good and proper 👍.
Alex Smithson
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Yes, I agree! And thank you so, so much 🙂
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You’re very welcome buddy, besides, you’ll need all the support you can get, and I’m always here buddy to support you no matter what. Don’t worry Anthony, you’ve always got me and everyone here to support you 👍.
Alex Smithson
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